Throughout my 21-year old life, I have learned so many important lessons which have shaped the way I think today. I love hearing what others think, even if I don’t agree with them, because it helps me learn about them and that my opinion isn’t the only one out there. Today, I am going to share the 10 things I believe about life, love, and success.
1. Women should be supporting (not degrading) other women
This is just one thing I absolutely do not understand. All women know how hard it is to be a woman in today’s society…so why are there some who try to make it worse for others? Life is seriously not a competition; there is enough room for all of us to succeed. So let’s start having each other’s backs more often!
This also goes along with a post I wrote about why bloggers need to have thick skin. It really upsets me when I see other bloggers degrading each other because they don’t believe everyone can or should be successful bloggers. I am so glad I have found a great group of friends that support and build each other up, and not make it a competition!
2. Treating people the way you want to be treated is the key to life
If you want respect from someone, you have to show respect to them and earn it! People are not going to be compelled to help you or even be around you, if you are a nasty, evil person. Think about it…would you want to be around this kind of person? I think not.
3. Open lines of communication are important for any successful relationship
Whether it be an intimate relationship, or a friendship, speaking openly and being honest about how you feel is so much better than bottling it all in. This not only doesn’t resolve anything, but you will also just continually get more annoyed and angry and eventually the problem will be bigger than it was to begin with. Although I believe this, I admittedly am still working on it. Sometimes, it can be hard to express my feelings, but I’m getting there!
4. Hard work always pays off
Success comes to those who work their butts off. There are so many times that we look to successful people and want to find a quick route to where they are, but in reality they put their time in too. Yeah, there are those select few who just get “lucky” and happen to land on a pot of gold, but that is not the norm!
When we work hard to get where we aspire to be, we can truly appreciate and enjoy it because we know that we put a lot of effort into making our dreams happen. You really deserve what you work (or don’t work) for!
5. The importance of knowing when (and how) to say “no”
As I recently stated in a post about not being a pushover, you need to be able to stand up for yourself and know when to say “no.” Without doing this, people will take advantage of you or you will end up doing something you really do not want to be doing. Knowing that you can simply say “no” because you just don’t want to be involved, is extremely important.
6. Making yourself happy should be the number one priority
When you put yourself and your happiness above anyone else, everything will fall into place. Although you may think you are happy when you are constantly helping and pleasing others, subconsciously, you know you need to help yourself. Think about it.
7. You are always able to change or leave a situation that you know does not match your morals
Whether you choose to change the situation or not, is a different story. However, if you find yourself at a party and do not agree with what is going on there, you have all the power to walk yourself out that door and leave.
Don’t have a ride home? If you really don’t want to be there, you can call a taxi or Uber. There’s always a way out.
8. If you complain about something, you darn sure better offer up a solution
This also gets me every time and I am completely positive that I could write a novel just on this topic alone. One area that I find so many complaints and no action is politics. Now, I am not going to get in any personal views or beliefs, but I strongly believe that you have absolutely no right to complain if you don’t vote and at least try to make a difference.
The same with anything else…if you don’t like a situation, then do not complain unless you have a way to change it. Complaining without any plan of action doesn’t do any good and is just down-right annoying.
9. Time heals all wounds
Like all heart breaks, deaths, or any other tragedy, your pieces will begin to fit back together with time. Although I know that the pain will be intense in the moment, eventually you will grow stronger and be able to face whatever it was that made you sad. Trust me, as cliche as it is, it will all get better in time.
10. My mom will always be my best friend
As my first best friend, I could not imagine my life without my momma. Although sometimes we butt heads because we are pretty much the same person, she is also the closest to me for that same reason. I love having someone that I know will answer the phone in the middle of the night when I am homesick (even if she really hates me for disrupting her beauty sleep) and will calm me down in any situation.
I think that no matter where we are in life, there is always something to take away from the situation. Is there anything you have learned from a big event in your life? I would love to hear it!
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