We have all been there.
We either liked a boy and hoped the feelings were mutual, wanted our “dream job,” or something else in our life just did not go as we had originally planned.
What happened? You got rejected.
I know the feeling. It’s terrible.
I could go on and on about the many experiences I have had with being rejected throughout my life. From liking the same boy throughout middle school, who always seemed to have another “love” interest to applying for engineering co-op positions that just did not work out.
Or the time during this past Spring semester when I applied to become a CHAARG ambassador and bring the health/ fitness organization to my university. I was so heartbroken during that time because I had only set my eyes on that. However, today I am extremely thankful that I did not get the position, because I never would have even thought to start my blogging journey. Had I known how to handle rejection during this challenging time, I know I would have come out of my rut sooner.
No matter how kindly you get turned down, it still feels like a knife to your stomach. You need to remember, rejection does not define you. You are not a failure.
Even if you want to crawl under a rock and wallow in self-pity, following these tips on how to handle rejection will not only help you move on from heartbreak, it will ultimately make you a better person in the long run.
1. Be thankful for the lesson
No matter what experience you are going through, there is always something to learn. Throughout my college career, I have applied for several different engineering co-ops that I unfortunately did not even receive an interview. I was so bummed and instantly came to the conclusion that I would never find a job. (Yes, I was being really dramatic and completely wrong, as I am entering my third co-op rotation this fall)
Although I was rejected from these potential jobs, I still learned more about the application process and how to perfect my resume, which is never a bad thing to learn.
So, if, and when, you get rejected, think about what lesson you can take away from that experience. You will become a better person for it.
2. Focus on what you have to offer and how that makes you different
Just because you were rejected, does not mean that you do not possess extraordinary qualities. Sometimes, the reason you were rejected was simply because you and the company just do not mesh well. And that’s okay. There are so many other opportunities out there that fit your personality and skills just right. And trust me, they will come along when the time is right.
3. Understand that you always have more options
At times when we want something so badly, we can become so narrow minded that we refuse to think that there are other options out there. Although this advice might be too late if you are reading this, I would suggest trying to not put all your eggs in one basket. Then, you will have a greater chance of receiving what you want.
However, if you did not do this to begin with, I sit here telling you, that you will be okay and although it was what you wanted, it may not be what you needed. There are so many more options than just the one you have been looking at. Get out there and find them.
4. When one door closes, another opens
As cliche as this phrase is, it is so so true. Not only will this open your mind to other opportunities, like I previously stated, but for some miraculous reason, this seems to always hold true.
I will be completely honest…sometimes it doesn’t feel like the doors close and open simultaneously. And as humans who want something done now, this can get frustrating. But keep your eyes open. Because this opportunity can be right in front of you.
5. Keep moving forward
It is so easy to let rejection get the best of you. However, crawling in your bed and watching Netflix for the next week will never benefit you.
Use this time to reconsider your dreams and goals as well as re-evaluating yourself. Continuing to improve will only make you a better person
6. Help others
Use your experiences to help others who are going through rejection too. Although you may feel as if you are alone, there is always someone else going through the same, or similar, life experiences.
Helping others will also help you realize that your situation is not as bad as you are making it out to be and it is not the end of the world.
Although rejection is never fun, there is so much that can be taken away from the experience. I hope that this post helps you handle rejection easier and inspires you to become a better person.
Have you had to deal with being rejected? What were some ways that you handled it?
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