Knowing that you have been lied to is such an awful feeling. Listening to little white lies here and there has brought this idea for a post on how to spot a liar. Some of these signs are really interesting and I had not known a couple prior to writing this post.
I bet you wish that you knew how to catch a liar in the act, huh? Well stay right here because I have all the information so that you can become the next detective and start figuring out if someone is lying to your face!
Body Language of a Liar
1. They will avoid eye contact
- When remembering details, if someone is right-handed, he/she will look up and to the left.
- If that person is lying, he/she will look up and to the right
- The reverse is true for left-handed people
2. Excessive staring or blinking
3. They cover their mouth or touch their nose
- Although their nose will not grow like Pinocchio, they tend to touch their nose in the midst of their deception
- They also tend to touch or cover their mouth while talking. Do they think that this will cover up their lie or something?!
4. The liar will shuffle their feet
5. They cross their arms and/or legs
6. Stiff posture
- When lying, people tend to tense up because they are afraid of getting caught in the act
7. They will quickly glance away and then back at you
- At times, if a person tells a lie, they will quickly look away and back at you, almost as if they want to make sure you bought the fib.
8. They become hostile
- If caught in a lie, a person may try to turn the tables on you. They may also begin to point a lot in order to defer the attention from them
Overall, I think that body language is harder to pinpoint. Some articles stated that people will shuffle their feet when lying, while others said people tend to stand still and restrict movement. Therefore, detecting a lie through body language can be different from person to person. Better, more tell-tale signs of liar are verbal giveaways
1. They will restate your question in their answer
- “Did you take my shirt?” “No, I did not take your shirt.”
2. It becomes hard for them to speak
- When delivering a lie, the automatic nervous system will decrease salivary flow. This in turn leads to the mucous membranes in the mouth to dry out which increases the difficulty of speech
3. They provide too much information
- The liar tends to ramble on and on about how they did not do something
- They may also add extra information (either truth or lie) that you didn’t even ask about in hopes to gain your trust and belief in their lie
4. Statements with contractions tend to be more truthful
- Like the example above, if a person uses “did not” instead of “didn’t,” there is a greater chance that they are lying
5. They have to think harder about what they are going to say
- In order to provide “evidence” that back up their lie, there may be a lag time between what you ask and when they answer
Sneaky way to spot a liar:
When you feel as if someone is lying to your face, quickly change the conversation to something completely unrelated. If said person is truly lying, a sense of relief will wash over them because they will think they are off the hook. Little do they know you just CAUGHT ‘EM!
Now that you have read the common signs of someone telling a lie, you can be an expert detective! However, please do not begin to get paranoid over someone’s every little action. Note that everyone is different and may act a little differently when lying.
Follow along with me!