It happens. Being human, we are always looking to other people and what they have accomplished. This tends to lead to wishing we were in their shoes or maybe even jealousy. It is completely okay (and encouraged) to set some of your goals based off what you see others achieving. This may give you extra motivation if you know that someone else did it, so you can too.
However, do not waste your life wishing time would go faster so you can reach the next stage in life. This is way easier said than done because I know I am guilty of wishing time would speed up too. Last year, Cory graduated from college (I won’t lie, I still feel a pang of envy when I am studying and he is out golfing). At this time I still had three more years of school (now down to two!) and I began to constantly wish I was in his shoes walking across that stage, never having to stress about how I did on an exam again.
Then I really thought about what I was doing to myself. I was not enjoying where I currently was in my own life. Everything was passing by and I was not appreciating any of it. Yes, it will feel fan-freaking-tastic when I graduate college. However, once I am done I will wish I had more time under the security blanket I know as school, safe from the real world. So, I set out to change my mindset and start trying to live more in the “now” rather than wishing I was in the future.
Why We Hurry Through Life
1. To gain importance- We feel that if we are better, smarter, more successful, we will become more important
2. Comparison- This is one of the worst things we do. We see someone else have or do something and we WANT. IT. NOW. What we do not see, is how hard those other people have worked to be where they are currently at in life. All good things come to those who work their butts off to make what they want happen!
3. Competition- Like comparison, we tend to look to others to evaluate our success. We always strive to have more or to achieve greater things faster than the next person, which is an extremely unhealthy method to go about your life. We should be analyzing our success based off what we have accomplished and our past experience and goals.
4. We want the “Get Rich Quick” method- It is fantastic to have goals and aspirations, but nowadays people have lost touch with how much work it takes to accomplish something. In order to have a goal, you need to make a plan on how you will achieve it…and understand that it will not all happen overnight.
5. We think the next thing will always be better- Who says that right now isn’t the best time of your life? I remember when I was a senior in high school I was constantly wishing I would be in college already. Now, I realize how great my time in high school was and how much freedom I had. I do like the place I am at in my life right now, but I wish I would have appreciated how much less responsibility I had then.
How to Slow Down
1. Live in the Now- When you finally start noticing life around you, you will notice so many more opportunities opening up. You might not get the same chances tomorrow, so enjoy today for what it is (:
2. Appreciate where you are in life- It is very rare for a CEO to just be granted the job without any prior experience. In order to make it to the top, you need to work your way up. Granted, you may not enjoy what you are doing and plan to apply for something better when there is an opportunity. Yet, you should still take this time to learn what you can, while you can. No matter what you are doing, there is always something to take away from every situation.
3. Take a breath- Make a conscious effort to relax and slow down. When you notice your life getting too crazy, simply stop for a minute and just breathe. This will not only calm you down if you are stressed, but you will also feel rejuvenated and ready to hit the ground running again!
I truly hope you are enjoying your life where you are at currently. Be proud of all that you have accomplished and keep busting your butt to make your dreams happen! (:
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