Like any important season in our lives, college is a time of many ups and downs that teach us countless life lessons. Through these struggles, though, we managed to come out alive and possibly as a better person. But what would college be without the people that were on the crazy roller coaster with us?
Since the beginning of this year, I have been reflecting on where I am in life and how much I have learned throughout my college experience. Truth is, last year, I had a huge falling out with three of my best friends. It was messy and left a hole in my heart, but with time, I realized that it was for the best. Since two of them are in many of my classes, I got a huge rush of anxiety (you can read more about that here) because I hadn’t seen them in about a year and didn’t know how to handle seeing them again.
However, once I saw them, I realized that I didn’t care about the situation anymore. With a full year passed, I now don’t know these people at all and guess what? I was totally okay with it. These friends helped me reevaluate myself and what I want in life, which ultimately helped me grow as a person.
Regardless of where you are now, whether you still keep in touch with these people or not, they had an amazing impact on your life. While you were learning, they were too, but there’s a great deal about life that you both taught each other. After my experience, I have learned that there are tons of things to thank your college friends for. In real life, or in your heart, make sure you take a second to thank your college friends for everything they have done for you.
When they were your sidekick to parties of people you didn’t even know during your freshman year
Don’t act like you don’t remember that time you walked around trying to find a house party you could stumble into. Although you still looked like babies, having people by your side made you feel a little more cool. When you didn’t know anyone at the party, they would be the one to start talking to random people and make you guys new friends. And when the night was over, they were your walking buddy so you didn’t get picked up by hobos on the side of the street.
For listening to your story about how you are going to marry that guy you met at the party last night
When you met and seemed to kiss a new guys every night of the weekend, the stories seemed to run together and sounds pretty much the same. But lo’ and behold, your roomie was always sitting on her bed listening to the story about the “glorious” make out sesh from the previous night. And although she was smart enough to know that this scene would play out again the following weekend, she humored you and went along with planning your next date and how you two would fall “madly in love.”
They were your study buddy until the wee hours of the morning.
When midterms and final hit you like a hurricane, you had your friends to lean on to complain about the workload and the fact that you didn’t major in something like Underwater Basket Weaving so you could still hit up all the parties before finals week. As a freshman, I lived in a Living Learning Community, so my roommate was also an engineering major. It was so awesome to have someone right there to study with at any time.
They taught you that friends come and go
This was probably the hardest lesson you learned from your college friends, because no one really wants to see a friend walk away. In the real world, you don’t have the same friends throughout your entire life. Yes, you’ll have that select couple that stick around and stay in touch, but for the most part, certain friends come and go during certain phases of your life.
They also taught you how to forgive (the real way)
I feel as if breaking up with best friends may almost be more difficult than breaking up with your boyfriend. And if you live with them, it can even be more challenging since you’ve spent all your time with them. Regardless of who was in the wrong, the breakup between you and your friends will definitely help you learn what it’s like to adult. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you excuse what happened. It means that you refuse to let the situation dictate your life.
They taught you what it was like to essentially choose your family
There are some points in all of our lives when we wish we could have chosen our siblings. But when you have best friends that you live with, hang out with, fight with, and make up with, you pretty much have it made right there. Knowing that you have life-long friends that will stay by your side no matter what is one of the greatest feelings ever.
I am a firm believer in the fact that no matter what the circumstance is, there is always something to learn from a situation. Although it may sting at first, take some time to think about what you learned from your college friends. Did they help you grow in any way? Let me know in the comments below!