Ever since graduating college, I have been on this journey toward increased mindfulness and self-love. Because we could all be just a tad bit nicer to ourselves…right? There have been so many times where I found that I treat other people way better than I treat myself. And don’t get me wrong, being nice to people is a definite MUST, but why don’t we treat ourselves the same? After a while, I became so exhausted since I wasn’t listening to what I needed. On top of that, I wasn’t practicing self-love and affirmations were not received by myself.
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I’ve been reading the book, You are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life and it’s really starting to change the way I think. For the better! In the book, the author talks about self-love and affirmations. And it wasn’t until I was telling my dogs how cute and good and adorable (ya know, the list goes on and on…) that I came to a realization. Why are we not saying these same affirmations to ourselves?
Okay okayyy, so I don’t mean the exact phrases you tell your pets. But when was the last time you criticized yourself v. complimented yourself? If the answer proves that you criticize more than compliment, we need to change that. So how do we go about changing our brains so work for the better? Keep reading 😉
Change the way you think
This one is still a struggle for me since you can’t just change the way you think overnight. We need to practice, practice, then practice some more for it to finally become a habit. Constantly walking around with a bitter or negative perspective on life is never going to get you where you want to go. Thinking positively will also help you appreciate what’s around you.
Keep track of your accomplishments
Goal setting is so awesome. But have you ever reached a goal, only to (a second later) change that goal to something bigger? Chances are you didn’t even celebrate!! And what’s the fun in that? When our friends accomplish something we are always there celebrating. Or being their free publicist and telling everyone we can find about what awesome thing they just did.
What’s self-love without recognizing your accomplishments? Keep a list of your goals. Keep track of when you reach them. And once you reach a milestone, take a step back and actually soak it in. Actually congratulate yourself for something that you just spent the last however long busting your ass to get to where you are.
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Get rid of what’s holding you down (both people + things)
Ever walk into a messy or cluttered room in your house and immediately walk out ’cause ya just can’t deal? What’s the point of even having the space if it doesn’t make you feel welcome? Honestly, when I clean (when I can motivated myself enough to do it…) and throw out all the unnecessary crap I feel so much. Like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Same goes for cleaning out my closet too. Sometimes I can be such the hoarder, so my rule is that if I haven’t used or worn within the past year it’s gone. Now, there are exceptions live season-specific items or electronics.
Now for the peeps in your life… If you notice that a relationship is drawing on all your energy then it’s time to reevaluate. I’m not saying end all relationships that involve some kind of negativity. We all have bad says (or seasons). But if the same negative conversation or fight or whatever is happening, then it could be time to take a step back. Ridding yourself of something negative will allow more room in your soul and mind for allll the positive things. 🙂
Stop the comparison
First, if it’s not fun, then it’s not a game. And comparing yourself to anyone else is zero ounces of fun whatsoever. Although comparing yourself takes away so much time that you could be doing toward something productive, it’s so much more than that. Whenever you accomplish something relish in what you have not. Not someone else. Because the second you look to someone else to see what they accomplished, you take all the joy away from you. Not cool, bro.
Okay, so this is definitely easier said than done. But whenever I come across someone who has done something super cool that I wish I did, I literally force positive thoughts into my mind. Both for that person and for me. Because, yeah it is totally awesome that the other person got what they did. And yeah, what you did is totally awesome too. Someone else’s success doesn’t equate your failure.
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Self-Love and Affirmations
Whether you think affirmations are the coolest thing since sliced bread or the most cliche, I really think they work. Once you say something to yourself enough times (good or bad) you eventually believe it. At first, affirmations feel super awkward…totally get that. And you might not believe them to be true at first. But after enough time of telling yourself nice things, you’ll begin to believe it.
What I have been doing lately is writing a couple mantras, or affirmations, in my journal whenever I need. I say them to myself a couple times once I write them and throughout the day when need. Honestly, just taking a couple seconds away from the day-to-day is game-changing for me. When I take a step back and remind myself what I truly want and desire, it puts everything back into perspective. Write down what you need to hear. Some awesome self-love affirmations are listed below!
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Self-Love affirmations you can tell yourself:
1. I believe in me.
2. I acknowledge my own self-worth–my confidence is soaring.
3. I am not my mistakes.
4. I accept myself unconditionally.
5. I am proud of myself and all that I have accomplished.
6. I am successful.
7. I am a beautiful person.
8. I deserve love, compassion, and empathy.
9. I am enough.
10. I believe in the person I dream of becoming.
11. I choose to be happy and completely love myself today.
12. I honor my commitments to myself.
13. I choose faith over fear.
14. There is no wrong decision.
15. I am now creating my live exactly as I want it.
16. Positivity is a choice; I choose to be positive.
17. I am free of worry and am at peace with who I am.
18. I matter. I am allowed to say “no” to others and “yes to myself.
19. What I give is what I receive.
20. I choose to not take it personally.
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Is there anything besides self-love and affirmations that you wish to be better at?! I challenge you to really push yourself this week to change your thoughts.