Picture this. You see someone online or in person succeed at something, or even just do something different than you. That pit comes to your stomach because you wonder why you haven’t thought about that first. Or worse, you fall into the trap of comparison between you and that other person. Sounds all too familiar, right? Well, the cold hard truth is that worrying about what others do is hurting you.
Yes. It’s the truth. No matter how much you worry about what others are doing, you’re not doing any good for yourself. I’ve been seeing and hearing people constantly criticizing others actions and it needs to stop. So, in this motivation post, I want to encourage you to stay in your own lane and focus more on yourself rather than others.
Worrying about what others do takes away from your own goals
Please, tell me. When you are worrying about what others do are you truly working toward bettering yourself? Girlfriend, the answer is no. Spending time analyzing someone else’s choices doesn’t propel you forward. Instead, this comparison trap is like quick sand and could actually pull you backwards.
With only a certain amount of time in the day to work toward your dream, you really can’t afford to waste any time. Kinda like looking at pictures of your sister’s friend’s cousin’s boyfriend’s brother on Facebook…yeah we’ve all been there. 😉 When we get sucked down this rabbit hole, precious time is used…for everything but the tasks that you needed to do.
There’s one real difference between you and that person who succeeded
The main difference between you and the person you’re comparing yourself to is that they are not constantly wasting their thoughts judging someone’s every move. They simply do what’s best for themselves. Yes, that person probably takes advice from others, but that’s different than comparing.
And frankly, what that person does with their life is none of your business. There’s so much that goes on behind the scenes that don’t even pertain to you.
Someone else’s success does not equate your failure
Just because someone has achieved their goal, absolutely does not mean that you have failed on your goals. Whenever I get down in the dumps, I always run through this set of questions:
1. Was that even something I wanted? Chances are, I don’t even want what that person has accomplished, I was just jealous that they achieve something.
2. Would I have wanted to put in that amount of work? When someone gets to a major milestone, a lot of time and work had to be put in to get there. Because I’m in college and work part-time, there’s not a lot of time to do all the things full-time bloggers are doing…which is something I constantly tell myself.
3. What can I do today to get me closer to my goals? After a couple minutes of wallowing in self-pity (because let’s be real, it happens to the best of us), I pick myself up and think about what task I can check off today to help me reach a larger goal. It doesn’t have to be something huge, just something.Someone else's success does NOT equate your failure! Click To Tweet
Knowing how to ignore those terrible thoughts of comparison takes a lot of work, but you got this girl! When you start having those negative thoughts, think about all the things you have done and where you still want to go. Because regardless what you think, you have made accomplishments in your lifetime!! 🙂
Do you struggle with worrying about what others do and comparing yourself to them? Let’s actively work toward not doing this together!